Why “Questioning” Label Is Disliked

Many people don’t feel comfortable with the label “questioning” within the LGBTQIA community

Knowing your sexual orientation and identity is truly a blessing that many don’t realize

I’ve gone through a lot of relationship trauma throughout my life. The majority of my teenage romantic relationships had some kind of abusive aspect to them. When people ask me about being LGBTQIA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning, intersex, asexual), I often find myself telling them “I know I’m not straight, that’s as far as I know, however”. I honestly contribute my “identity crisis” in this regard to the abusive relationships I had when this part of me “awakened” so to speak.

Part of the problem is, you ask twenty different people, you’re going to get twenty different answers for “How do you define sexual attraction?”. Not even experts can agree on a “concrete” definition in this regard.

For those curious here’s a list of different “official” definitions for sexual attraction

One can see why from those definitions it can be a little confusing to navigate. And why “Why don’t you like the term Questioning?” can be so loaded. For starters, some feel that it sounds “juvenile”. I’m in my late twenties. I’m not a pre-teen or “baby queer” where it feels like I’m trying to blindly…